I had several ideas for writing today, but one has very clearly floated to the surface on this Wednesday.
It could actually have been titled: Perfectionism, Part 2.
Background information here! For Christmas, I was given a beautiful journal with the Gandhi quote, “Be the change you wish to see in the world”, stamped on the cover. I had an epiphany of sorts…I had been pondering a “theme” to use for the New Year.
Resolutions just haven’t ever worked out well for me. Does anyone really have any luck with them? Who makes it to the end of January without breaking the resolutions? Certainly not me!
Anyhow, in 2014, I decided it would be my year of “No Fear”. I consciously decided to face things that I was afraid of instead of avoiding them. For example, I started this blog (which had actually been started previously, but abandoned because I was afraid). I publicly shared my art. I battled my tendency towards agoraphobia. Whenever I became reluctant to start or do something, I thought it through and tackled it. Much better than resolutions!
Back to January 2015…I decided to play with Gandhi’s quote a bit and came up with: “Be the change you wish to see in your world”. Instead of worrying, perseverating, whining, or giving up on the things I’m unhappy with in my/our life, I decided that I would take action. Taking steps, even baby-steps, even steps in the wrong direction, is preferable to doing nothing and being miserable.
The thing that I’d most like to change in my/our life right now is our financial situation. It might be classified as dismal except that’s depressing. Let’s just call it “a situation that has room for improvement”.
And that brings us back to the beginning of this post…
I’ve been sitting here at my desk for well over an hour. It’s been a busy month with lots of distractions and I’ve totally let my money management system get out of control. That’s a fancy way of saying that I’ve just been shoving the unopened bills into a big pile on the shelf above my desk. Let me tell you, procrastination is no way to get your money woes under control.
Lesson number one: Remember the theme from 2014 (No Fear) and stop avoiding that which you are afraid of.
Lesson number two: Don’t forget to “Be the Change”. Doing something is almost always better than doing nothing at all.
One of the reasons I had avoided dealing with the bills is that I couldn’t pay them all. I couldn’t do it “right”. It wasn’t going to be finished. Some bills were going back in that pile.
It’s so hard for me to take steps in a journey when I know I can’t get where I want to go; at least right now.
I’m trying to learn to let go of the expectations…that I can somehow be perfect, please everyone, have control of the journey, or change things as quickly as I’d like.
Most importantly, I’m trying to be kind to myself when I can’t seem get my act together…when the fear never fully goes away and when I feel like giving up instead of trying to change things.
Life is hard sometimes.
Life is always wonderful.