Here’s some random observations (light bulb moments) from this weekend:
First, I participated in a fun “conversation” on facebook yesterday. The thread was started by a friend. She asked a seemingly random question which resulted in some honesty, some creativity, some “rabbit trails”, and some smart-ass banter.
Then she turned serious on us and revealed that what she was really talking about was habits. The slow building of habits in our life as we seek self-improvement. It can’t be done all at once (and shouldn’t be because that doesn’t result in true change).
When she first mentioned the word “habit” though, I have to admit that I first thought of “bad habits”. Once she elaborated on her idea, I realized she was speaking of good habits.
Why did my thought process automatically turn towards the negative? Am I truly a pessimist? Do I look tend to look towards the “down” side of things?
I hope not and I will be watching for this trend in my thinking. I’ve always thought I was a realist with naïve tendencies, but it’s probably an area I need to work on. I’ll add that to my “bucket” list!
Next, I was taking out the trash this morning and was disturbed to see that the big can was almost full already. We did have company over this weekend and I am clearing out some stuff, but trash pick-up isn’t until Thursday.
We used to recycle as best we could. We don’t have curb-side pickup where we live so we have to transport it to another city near us. I even bought nice bins from IKEA. Then we couldn’t find a good spot for them in the kitchen. We dropped down to one car and transportation was an issue. The recycling started piling up in the kitchen and I just gave up.
I guess I saw it as an all-or-nothing proposition. Solution: This old white armoire in the dining room (awaiting a fresh coat of paint) has been repurposed. The shelf is one my son found in someone’s discard pile. The boxes are leftover from my business paper purge. A spot for cardboard, paper, plastic, and metal recycling. It’s not pretty, but it’s out of sight and easily accessible. I’ll recycle what I can and throw away what I can’t if transportation becomes an problem and the stuff outgrows the cabinet.
It doesn’t have to be perfect. I can choose to look at it as “good enough”.
And finally – Am I in this life for the journey or the destination? I keep looking at the work to be done and thinking, “when this is done I’ll ______.” (Fill in the blank with any number of plans)
When the house is de-cluttered? When the laundry is done? When the kitchen is clean? When the garden is weeded? When my inbox is empty. When the canvas is completed. The work in my life doesn’t get done. I’m a homemaker (among other things). When the work is done, it means I’m done (if you know what I mean).
Always looking towards the destination is a wasteful way to live.
I need to enjoy the journey.