First of all – since my husband so very kindly shared this on facebook already – the broom has been found. It was right behind the very desk that I typed the missing broom post at. It was leaning against the wall. If I’d simply turned around, I would have seen it.
I suppose there is an entire post or commentary there: what we need (or want) is often right there with us, but we keep searching far and wide for it, unaware of it’s proximity.
But, that’s not what today’s post is about.
Today, I want to take a moment to reflect on an important lesson I have learned (am learning) this week. It’s a bit about who I am, where I belong, and what I need to be doing…
The world is a mighty big place. There are a lot of things wrong in it. There are a lot of things right about it. There are unlimited causes to fight for. Injustices that are great and small. Some exist on a world scale and some are in our own homes. Some we know about because they are “in our face” on the news, in social media, in conversation at every turn. Some we never hear about for whatever reason. Some we embrace and some we ignore.
Sometimes we choose to fight for a cause because it is deeply personal for us. It affects us directly or someone we know.
We might be drawn to an issue for reasons we don’t understand.
In any case, I believe it is important to work for social justice – to stand for something – to work towards making the world a better place. For everyone.
I try to do that in my own little way. I often believe that I don’t do enough. That I should be doing more and trying harder.
But, we can’t all do great and powerful things. We aren’t all going to make the news carrying protest signs. We can’t all be heroes (for lack of a better word).
Kudos to those who do. We need heroes.
It’s equally important to have those who work behind the lines. Those who do the little things that make a difference. Some will never be known for the work they did – a small act of kindness that multiplied into something much more for example. Every person plays their part – the laundry always has to be done, the dishes washed, the trash picked up, and the meals prepared. I don’t know that there is any honest work that should be downplayed or deemed less important than any other.
My lesson this week is as follows…
I “jumped” into social media this week and made a statement. The issue, the statement, the consequences or lack thereof aren’t really relevant to this discussion. I don’t regret doing so. But, I am suffering the consequences. Maybe suffering isn’t the correct word. Perhaps I should say, I am experiencing the consequences. Old wounds have been opened and I am dealing with old hurts and pain that I thought I had already dealt with and put to rest. This isn’t totally a bad thing. I believe that we need to deal with our emotions and feelings in order to grow and fully develop.
I’m just weary, anxious and somewhat depressed. I’m tired and stressed. Dealing with the emotions (mine and others) is exhausting. Thinking carefully about what I want to say and making sure it is clear and to the point – and that it won’t be misunderstood. Considering both sides of the situation and being considerate and compassionate about those involved. Playing nice when others don’t. Letting the angry words go because I understand the anger is rooted in hurt and pain. Dealing with the frustration when someone can’t see that their words are unfair and just plain mean.
Sometimes something will seem so obvious to me – and it seems like nobody else can see it. I try hard to be open to the fact that they are thinking the same of me.
I’m feeling out of place, exposed and vulnerable.
I just want to wrap myself in a safe cocoon.
I just want to go into my studio and make something.
And that, more and more, seems to be where I belong. Behind the scenes making art. A more solitary existence. Speaking through my work. Sometimes it makes a statement. Sometimes it illustrates a story. Sometimes it makes me feel better. Sometimes it makes a point. Sometimes it just is…
I’ve been told that I write well. That I speak well. That I argue/discuss/debate well. Maybe so. I don’t know for sure.
I do know that just because you can do something – doesn’t mean that you necessarily should.
Just because you can say something – doesn’t mean that you should.
And it doesn’t mean that I never will again.
But for right now, I’m going to go into my studio and make some art.