Okay, maybe recovery from a depressive episode isn’t a one and done deal…
And maybe honesty with oneself about how hard life has been is a good idea…
I think I’m really back in the light again this time.
I feel good.
The past days have been about rest and art and changing bad habits into better ones.
My eyesight isn’t better and I have a stack of medical bills that have increased the debts I’ve worked so hard to reduce. I calculate that every trip to a new specialist will add thousands of dollars in debt. We have insurance. It doesn’t cover everything. Since I’m not dying of a brain tumor and I don’t have multiple sclerosis, I’m taking my health into my own hands for a bit.
So, the plan is to work towards improving my overall health and continue to work towards reducing stress and changing the way that I react to the stress that is inevitable.
Step one…acknowledging that life has been challenging the past year. Most of those challenges are here to stay. My sister’s health will continue to be a responsibility. We haven’t won the lottery. The house has not improved itself. My son will be jumping out of an airplane in a few months and then will move on to being shot at.
But, I have the summer off from teaching and that allows for rest. And I have come to understand that ignoring the reality of the stress or pretending that it is not a big deal is not helpful.
Step two involves removing as many chemicals and additives from my environment and diet as possible. Label reading has taken on a new priority! Our grocery bill has increased, but I figure that I’m either going to pay for healthier food or more medical bills. The junk food is gone and vegetables and fruit are filling the majority of my plate.
The transition has not been as hard as I anticipated. If I were to be completely honest, it’s possible that in the past I might have considered a box of Little Debbie snack cakes to be an adequate meal. Let’s just keep that little confession between the two of us…okay?
Step three relates directly to the house and yard. I am continuing to declutter and assess the amount of stuff in our house. But, more importantly, I am trying to be more realistic about how the house looks…and worry less about what other people might think. A lot of living happens here. It’s not a magazine photo shoot. And I am not Suzy homemaker.
Honestly, some days I don’t know who I am…or who I want to be when I grow up.
So, I’m going to keep trying to figure that out. And work towards being the best “me” that I can be. I’m acknowledging that looking like Cindy Crawford is probably not realistic. I’m working on that expectation. I working on a lot of things…
Still a long way to go. I’ve figured out the meaning (for me). I don’t normally comment on what a work means to me, but I might make an exception this time…once it’s done.
Today I am doing laundry. And making more paper. And sanding and scraping off the paint that I just added to the canvas above. And (sigh) figuring out our finances and paying bills.
and reminding myself that life is good and that I am an okay person most of the time…
and that I will write again tomorrow even if it’s hard.