Will this be an interesting post or not? It’s hard to say at this point. I’m not sure that I should be attempting to write at all. This has not been a particularly interesting day in any respect. Not a bad day. Not a good day. Just kind of a day.
Of note, I’ve reconnected with a friend who is battling a cancer battle. I’ve just kind of ignored the whole situation for a while. We don’t live close to each other and our lives don’t intercept at all any more except in that weird world that is the internet or interweb or whatever we are calling it now. Pretty much a mystery to me.
Anyhow, I’ve started reading her Caring Bridge posts and texted her a bit today. Can we say too many times that cancer sucks and that chemo sucks even more? I don’t think so. Cancer sucks and chemo sucks even more.
Her post, in combination with my less than stellar performing digestive system, prompted me today to schedule all of the diagnostic screening exams that I have ignored forever…Pap Smear, colonoscopy, and mammogram. Ugh. Ignoring things doesn’t mean they go away. Sigh. I don’t know what is more stressful – wondering if something is wrong or scheduling a procedure that’s gonna be unpleasant.
We place so much faith in our bodies and take for granted that they will do what we need them to do when we need them to do it.
A close family member is dealing with the effects of aging and a body that’s performed a lifetime of good and hard service for the betterment of others. It’s worn out – her body that is. It’s hard to deal with…aging and illness that force us to learn to ask for help and rely on the help of others.
We’re not meant to live this life alone. Life is too darn hard. Why is it so hard to reveal our weaknesses and allow others to be our superheroes? I don’t mind helping someone out when they need it and I certainly don’t think less of them. Why is that not a reciprocal act for me – for most of us?
I got a wonderful package in the mail the other day. A friend responded to my post about giving up Sonic tea runs and sent me a gift of all kinds of wonderful teas. When I spoke with her she said, “I have tea and you need tea. We need to be in community and share what we have with each other. That’s how it should be.”
I lift up my cup of tea…Here’s to stepping out of our comfort zone and reaching out to someone in our life (or a stranger) and offering a helping hand. Let’s not wait to be asked. Some of us will never ask for help because we don’t know how, don’t realize we need to, or are afraid of rejection based on past experiences.
Let’s share our stories, our skills, our resources, and our time with each other. Let’s not be alone and lonely.