It’s late at night here at home. The family is asleep or at least quietly in their space(s). I’m wandering through the house shutting out lights and taking an inventory of the weekend’s activity.
By the looks of things it was a busy weekend indeed.
There is not a tidy spot in the house.
We had a big family breakfast and the dishes aren’t done. Everyone was running around doing their own thing so the rest of our meals were “grab and go”. Those remnants and dishes are all over the kitchen also. On the bright side, the fridge and pantry are still clean.
I don’t do laundry on the weekend so there is a mountain in the laundry room.
It’s difficult to fit an apartment worth of stuff into one room, so my daughter’s stuff is still all over. She’s sorting out the “need now” from the “need later”. Half-empty and half-full boxes are waiting for those decisions to be made. The stuff from the guest room needs a new home as she transitions the room back into hers. She’s working two part-time jobs so progress is slow. In short, there is stuff EVERYWHERE!
I figured out a storage solution. We have a storage space in our classroom/studio that will work. It was filled with all the paper documents from our small business. It was moved here when we were still actively involved in it’s day to day operations. Sixty boxes worth. That needs to be sorted into keep and shred/recycle. Right now, it’s stacked everywhere other stuff isn’t stacked, waiting to be dealt with.
As you can imagine, there a lots of stacks. It might be more correct to say that there are trails through the stacks.
My house is a maze
All in all, my home is once again a mess – a total disaster. Boxes everywhere, piled laundry, dirty dishes, stacked counters and tables, messy bathrooms, and an art project or two.
Initially, I was upset and frustrated.
Then I had an epiphany of sorts. There is a better way of looking at it all. A choice – an intentional choice.
Today is done – the end of a good weekend. There is evidence of that good weekend everywhere I look. Meals shared. Creative projects worked on. Memories made. Time together. Everyone is happy and healthy. No disasters or drama.
Just a mess – my family’s mess in our home.
Could we learn to better pick-up after ourselves? Yes.
Should there be less stuff to deal with? Yes.
Is our life perfect? No.
We are a work in progress. I am a work in progress.
Tomorrow, I will get up. Start a load of laundry. Make breakfast. Tidy the kitchen. Supervise some schoolwork. Take my son to work. Pick up my daughter from work. Clean a little bit. De-clutter a little bit.
I’m going to remember to eat healthy foods and take a walk.
I’m going to hug my husband and kids and tell them that I love them.
It’s not my purpose in life to clean and maintain a perfect home. Nor is it a priority to de-clutter and have the “right” number of possessions.
Those are just tasks towards a goal. A comfortable home for our family to live and thrive and grow in.
There is definitely work to be done.
But, it will never be “finished”.
There will be another meal (and more dishes), a new day (and a change of clothes), more projects (yea, creativity!), and eventually someone will move out or back in. We will re-arrange, re-prioritize, pursue new interests, change, and grow.
It is my purpose in life to love and care for my family (and myself). I also need to make art, but that’s another blog post.
As I have been writing this, today has turned into tomorrow. Sunday has transitioned to Monday.
Time for reflection makes way for rest…for it is a new day, a new attitude and a new opportunity to make positive changes.